Motivation to change, why is it so hard?
By Lynne Dean |
We encounter constant changes throughout our life; it could be educational,
health, relationships or financial, and of course with oneself. Maintaining or
increasing one’s sense of self-worth and happiness are strong incentives for
these changes.
Too often trials and errors affect our self-esteem and
therefore hinder true engagement in learning and changing. It’s very comforting
to have a routine, and very frightening to go forward to the unknown. Its takes
courage and determination. This is nothing new. You have done it before, perhaps
not deliberately but you have gone through many changes during your life.
Change is stressful. No doubt about it. Why not make it as
stressless as possible? Try to consider the following:
Uderstand the
intentions, motivations, and desires of your new endeavours. Acknowledge the
strengths and constraint it will bring. Allow yourself to take risks and not to
take any fall back personally. Remember trials and errors are part of learning
and being alive.
Compel to understand, to appreciate one’s feelings,
fears and motivations; be sure to use such information to better your life. Use
this information to guide your thinking and action.
Let go of negative
thoughts, integrate new ideas with what you already know and use the new
information to move forward. Be flexible, allow for new and different ways to
achieve your goal, it might bring you different opportunities at the end. Why
not supply yourself with options. Have some contingencies as backup plans, it
will calm down this feeling of vulnerability.
Unfortunately too often as
adults we want to do everything ourselves…mistakes. We are not alone; tons of
people have been through changes, often similar to ours; seek and accept support
from others. They experienced it, they might know something you haven’t’ thought
about. Give it a try.
Don’t disown your future, own it. You make your
life, take it as a movie set if you like; you are the director, the main actor
and the editor. How do you want the story to ensue?
Ask yourself those
fundamental questions:
What am I like?
What do I want to be
like?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What
do I need?
What do I want?
Who could help me?
Want is my
plan?
Know that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Now is an
opportunity to reflect and act upon those thoughts. Changing is a means to an
end, not an end in itself.
Making Positive Changes
Instead of
saying "I don't know"
Say "I'll find out".
Instead of seeing a problem
for every answer,
Try seeing an answer for every problem
Instead of
saying "That's not my job",
See what has to be done and do it.
Instead of
making promises,
Make commitments
Instead of looking at what can't be
done,
Look at what can be done
When a mistake is made, instead of saying
"It wasn't my fault"
Say "I was wrong".
Instead of side-stepping most
issues,
Try making decisions
Instead of saying "I'm not as bad as a lot
of others",
Say "I'm good, but not as good as I can be".
Instead of
saying "That's the way it has always been done",
Say "There ought to be a
better way".
Instead of saying "It may be possible, but it's too
difficult",
Say "It may be difficult but it's not impossible".
Taken
from "Positive Works" from Alberta Advanced Education and Career
Development
Article taken from the The Muse -Motivational
news
About the Author
Lynne Dean created Motivational Central, an online information service
for seekers of general self improvement, in January 2005. http://www.motivationalcentral.com
Being a simple government part time worker and mother to a lovely son, she
welcome the challenged to communicate and built a web site where positive vibes
and motivation tips would be share to the world. A hobby it is, but what a fun
and interesting thing to do!
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